Monday, May 20, 2013
On Finding Balance
as a working mom, my biggest challenge has been finding the perfect balance between home and the office. now more than ever, i feel so lucky that jeff and i work for a company that promotes work-life balance and allows alternative work schedules. i know not all parents are so fortunate. after evie was born, it took a few trials and errors to figure out what felt right: we tried working from home once a week, working four ten-hour days with a day off in the middle, and working half days. i knew i couldn't be away from my baby five days a week, eight hours a day, but the thought of staying home full time scared the pants off me. (bravo to all you stay-at-home moms. i truly believe it's the hardest job in the world.) now, we work full days on tuesday, thursday and friday, and half days monday and wednesday (mornings for me, afternoons for jeff). we get to spend lots of time with our girl while maintaining lives outside the home, a balance that has strengthened our bond and made us happier as a mommy and daddy.
but it's a daily battle, the balancing act. just because i'm home on monday and wednesday afternoons doesn't mean work stops. i see emails come through on my iphone and scan them them while evie is eating or napping, deciding which ones can wait until tomorrow, which can wait until after evie goes to bed for the night, and which should be answered now. luckily, most can wait. if i give one-hundred percent at the office, i want to give one-hundred percent at home, too. i try not to have my phone out while evie's around because i want her to have my undivided attention, learn that interacting face-to-face is more important than "playing" on an electronic device. but i also want my coworkers to know i'm fully dedicated even though i'm home some afternoons. i've learned to prioritize, to realize when it's probably okay to have my phone out, and to recognize the moments with my daughter that i'll never have again, the ones for which i should be completely present. most of the time, i'm completely present. i hope evie remembers that about her childhood.
p.s. that first photo? was taken at jeff's grandma's birthday party in april. it would be a framer if it weren't for the old lady in the background! in case it's not completely obvious, that black sticker ("j+m+e") is there to cover her face. apparently there's some camera technology that can erase unwanted people from the background of photos. have you heard of it? i wish i had that!